What is depression?
Male victims of domestic abuse feel depressed from time to time. The fact that some of them often get over it makes it more difficult to empathise with those who experience this in the long term.
We can feel low or blue for a few days or can have more severe depression which may last for months. Recalling a time when we may have been low/depressed and thinking we know what it is like is often a misconception about someone else’s depression which will be experienced differently. How we normally distract ourselves when we feel gloomy might include things like mixing with friends, distractions such as movies, football, shopping, getting a haircut, all these things can and do work for people some of the time but for some they do not.
We can feel low or blue for a few days or undergo severe depression which may last for months. Recalling a time when we may have been under such state and thinking we know what it feels like is a misconception. How we normally distract ourselves when we feel gloomy might include things like mixing with friends, distractions such as movies, football, shopping or getting a haircut. However, these things work for some time but not in long run.
A male victim of intimate partner violence may at some point experience symptoms of depression such as altered complexion, hindered digestion, insomnia, obscured spirits and heavy heart. This could lead to a major depression if help is not sought. Cognitive Bias suggests that the male victims who do not seek help/support tend to interpret life’s event negatively. Individuals in these categories fail to take initiatives & opportunities are lost.
Some people have the impression that anti-depressants may help them feel less agitated or anxious, or may help to relieve symptoms of depression. Also, they think that such medications are not addictive and can help with day-to-day functioning until they reach a point where they may want to talk about the problems in more detail. Some people take them in conjunction with the support of counselling.
Negative Side Effects of Antidepressants
The mainstream approach in many cases of depression is to prescribe anti-depressants or recommend counselling such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Even though this traditional approach ‘’appears’’ to be helpful in many cases, the truth is that it only alleviates the feeling of depression and does not actually solve the actual problem.
For example, tackling a problem in marriage/relationship. You as the man are advised to learn how to live with the bad and traumatic experiences instead of challenging and dealing with the practical root cause of your relationship problem.
HELP 4 MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE, focus on changing the social context, rather than changing individuals.
Other words/Feelings for depression
- Slowed down
- Mental pain
- Can’t concentrate
Symptoms of depression
- Depressed mood, loss of interest/pleasure/vitality
- At least four of the following:
- Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
- Loss of concentration
- Loss of energy
- Noticeable tiredness and fatigue
- Suicidal thoughts
- Loss or increase of appetite and weight
- Insomnia or excessive sleeping
- Agitation or slowing down of actions
- Duration of at least 2 weeks
- No evidence of any physical or mental disorder that’s behind the depression.
Features of depression
- Pervasive and unresponsive depression
- Variation of daily mood e.g. worse in morning or sometimes
- Marked loss of self-esteem
- Profound lack of energy (apathy)
- Sad, miserable, regretful thoughts
- Panic Attacks
- Guilt about real or imagined failings
- Thoughts about suicide/methods
- Inability to concentrate
- Impaired memory for recent events
- Loss of feelings, particularly affection and interest
- Marked loss of appetite
- Measurable loss of weight
- Poor sleep patterns with early morning waking
- Loss of sexual drive
- Intolerance of noise/bright lights
- Slowed down speech and movement